Location: Cape Town

photographer: Catalina Jocelyn

Firstly, Happy New Year! 

I hope you all had an amazing year and are looking forward to an even better one. Now, that we are on the second day of the year - it seems only right to have my first blog post of the year talking about the past and the way forward, from a personal point of view. 

You know life has an interesting way of showing us things that are good and bad for us. I will say that this year has been an exciting year because for my career I would like to believe it was the peak of some amazing things about to happen in the new year. I also would like to believe that personally, it was my last stroke for learning what works and doesn't work for me. 2017 was a year of personal growth for me in a sense that I knew what I want as a woman. I learnt so much about myself that I think I am ready for 2018. 

I think I wanted to focus this blog post on the topic of knowing what you want and how to run with it. I am hoping this won't be a long post but I also hope that this blog post inspires you to not be afraid to choose you! Whilst growing up, I was always known to be the person who was calm, kind and very compassionate towards other people. Still now, I have been told that 'I'm too kind to people' even in situations where I shouldn't have been. But I believe God gives us characteristics that would be used for a good purpose in your life. Where am I going with this? I guess, what I learnt from being kind even in situations where it was not appreciated is that being kind to others doesn't mean that you can not be kind to yourself too. Being selfish about the time, feelings you invest in others or things should be really well assessed. I believe kindness is something that comes naturally and if you're truly kind you never have to try over and over to prove that you are kind. I also believe that kindness is how you treat people even when they are not kind to you. I can definitely say I have learnt to be kind even when others are not kind to me because I never let someone's bad behaviour to determine or change mine towards them - I will continue to be kind but I will find ways to reciprocate that kindness in more subtle ways. This year I learnt that with being kind to others it is important to be kind to yourself. I have learnt to be very selfish with my feelings and time I invest in other's and not being ashamed of it. 

If I have a piece of advice for you... it would be to 'spend time with those who cherish you and they'll reciprocate those feelings to you without you having to force them to do so. I would also advise you to really take the time to be aware of your surroundings, energies and vibes around you and be selfish about who you spend your time with.' I truly believe that the people you invest in will influence your personal and mental wellbeing sometimes in a good way or sometimes bad. If you get bad feelings every time you meet with someone and they are not adding something positive towards your growth in some sort of way - personally, spiritually, mentally or emotionally then I would suggest you find people who would add some value in your life. God has people that are meant to be in your life, trust Him to choose them for you. Remember it's okay to grow and it's okay to grow without others if you need to, for your own positive personal growth. Don't let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace. But the only person who has control over that is you. So take some control and protect your peace through the new year.  

Wishing you all a prosperous new year!